Size does matter
Is there anything, fat people enjoy in life, because of them being fat?
Times are such, ‘being over-weight is a weight’ in many aspects. It is
the way society perceives them that worry them most. Beyond question,
only the fat must have noticed - one’s size is more a problem for the
rest of the world, rather than for the fat, themselves! This is where
unpleasant feelings start breeding in them, and life with an unshapely
body becomes wearisome.
It is not that fat people are happy with their size. It is just that
they cannot do very much about it. It has to be accepted, some are fat
because of their improper dietary habits, such as excessive intake of
starchy foods, sweets and oily food, as well as a lack of exercise.
Don’t most love to eat these foods? However, for a fat person, every
attempt to be slim, is more or less, a sacrifice of their likes, and an
adoption of what they dislike. Unfortunately, this is not understood by
most. They are pitied by less, heavily criticised by more. In that
sense, they are the least blessed lot.
Still, it is obvious, you could call yourself lucky, and be a little
happier, if you are ‘fat but sweet’ or ‘chubby but fair’ rather than
‘fat and ugly’ or ‘fat and dark.’ Though society in general is
intolerant of the overweight, they are more tolerant of the former, and
more hostile to the latter.
The comments made about those who are fat are embarrassing and
belittling sometimes. These usually start in the family - if the
siblings are slim, and you are not. “You’re like a pregnant woman with
that stomach” says mum! The reason is, society makes the parents, part
and parcel of the problem. ‘Govi Buddhist parents seek a fair, slim
bride for their son.’ The place is still for those ‘slim figures’ and
‘the fat’ are a ‘sorry sight’ for many men, in the context of marriage
Greed and laziness are the reasons that society would generally define
for fatness. People expect them to be involved in an excessive
working-out of their bodies. Would a person of average weight, pass the
sight of a hill, without encouraging her over-weight friend “go up and
down a hill like this, several times everyday, you are sure to lose some
They are recipients of showers of advice - “Why don’t you go to a gym?”
“Why don’t you consult a dietician?” “Eat vegetables for dinner” “Gosh!
Don’t even touch cheese.” “Chocolates – no way!” “At least, walk around
the house ten times in the morning.” These suggestions are depressing to
Fat people are also subjects of humiliation, bullying and name calling:
‘fatty’, ‘baby elephant’ ‘piggy’, ‘fatso’ ‘her fatness’ are only a few.
Not forgetting that there are more offensive, and ruder names. There are
a lot of unkind people, who make jokes at us. Adults are worse than kids
when it comes to criticism and verbal abuse.
Those who are fat must consider the style, colour, the print when they
choose clothes, over their own preferences. “Small prints are not
advised, dark colours are encouraged.” And there is less choice since
the size would always be ‘XL’ and ‘XXL’!!
‘Size does matter!’ A deep sense of sadness overwhelms us, when they
judge us only by our size.