When you come to the end of your rope, tie a
knot and hang on
-Franklin D. Roosevelt
might be times where a distressed teenager may wish to give up on life.
Some may try to influence teenagers to do this and that or, if you are
in sorrow they might just tell you to be strong.
I had to face many problems this year such as illness of my dad and
missing my friends, who were there to help me in my entire dilemma. Some
told me to be strong but, I could not understand how I could be strong.
Like many teenagers, I always took life easy. I had the easy, happy-go
policy! Never did I bother to shoulder responsibilities, as I always
knew my parents were there to handle things for me.
Here is the story; my dad now lies in hospital, and I have just come
back from seeing him. Looking back I realised, that my he would not be
able to be there for me like he always has. And that, my friend, is
something I have to get used to everyday. I am not lonely as such, but
alone. Staying strong…? What is that all about? No one would really help
you to be strong I think, it’s your inner strength, that works.
What I find even sadder in the whole process is how teenagers like you
and I are made to deal with it. I know some and have friends who are
discouraged by adults from sharing their grief.
Do you know distressed teens that are struggling to express their
feelings? You know the story and you wonder how they make it through,
simply because they go on in life like nothing’s ever happened. No
wonder many teens turn to graffiti, art or whatever form it may take to
express their innermost feelings.
During this period teenagers face many obstacles. When you miss someone
close to you, life could be miserable. For me, I had to divide my time
with work and home; it was very difficult for me at the beginning. Now I
go to work when my mum comes home.
Even if I’m at work I would always be thinking about my parents, if my
mum had her meals or whether dad misses me since I’m not around. It
takes lot of strength to cope with such situations.
There were times where I have felt frustrated. Seeing my dad so ill was
the very last thing I have ever dreamt of. As a family we had arguments
when we felt frustrated, especially I did as I was the youngest in the
family I always had my dads support me whatever I did or say, even if
rest of the members oppose. He was the guardian of peace in our family
and now maintaining peace among each other is up to us, when my sister
and I fought he used to calm us down and explain that peace among us was
the most important gift that we could give him.
I found it difficult to concentrate with my academic work, with all the
hassle surrounding me. However, my family made it a point that I should
never ever give up on my studies, as it would always help me in my
future work and allow me to be strong.
What it takes for me to be strong and how you can do it…
• For me the support of my family helped me a lot to be strong, when my
dad got ill I had all my family supporting me and they still do.
• There might be times where you will lazy to take up responsibilities;
you might want to shy away, don’t take up challenges which will help
• You might want to throw out your sorrow or go and hide some place
where no one could find you but remember running away from
responsibilities won’t help anyone.
• Talk to some one who would really understand your situation if it is
not a relation it can be a friend.