NI woman befriends older gentleman after he experienced feelings of loneliness

A Co Down woman has told how her experience as a befriender, has allowed her to help a man 60 years older than her.

This week, marks Befriending Week and the leading voice for volunteering in Northern Ireland, Volunteer Now, is highlighting the impact that being a volunteer befriender can have on people experiencing feelings of isolation or loneliness.

Young volunteer Amy Donald, 23, from Holywood joined Volunteer Now’s befriending scheme earlier this year. Amy fits her role as a volunteer befriender around her job at George Best Belfast City Airport where she works in Special Assistance.

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"I’ve always wanted to help older people so started looking into opportunities and that’s how I found Volunteer Now," Amy said.

"After I applied to be a befriender I had a meeting so Volunteer Now could get to know me and once everything was completed I was matched with a gentleman named Mike. Mike’s wife has health issues and has to attend treatment a few times a week for several hours at a time.

"Mike had been suffering from feelings of isolation and loneliness and really just needed someone to spend some time with him while his wife was out of the house and to help him feel more connected.

"Volunteer Now came along to my first befriending session with Mike and from there we just hit it off! Despite there being 60 years between us, he now feels like one of my closest friends in the world. I visit with Mike every week. He has taught me to play Chess and Scrabble. I love listening to stories from his childhood and it has opened my eyes to how different life was for young people back in his day.

"Mike keeps me up to date on current affairs and we usually enjoy our chat with a slice of tasty cake that his wife has baked. My visits with Mike have helped lift his spirits and recently he told me I’m like the daughter he never had, which was just so special to hear. His wife also tells me she really appreciates knowing that Mike isn’t alone while she goes to hospital.

"What Mike doesn’t maybe realise is how much visiting with him has helped me. I come out of his home each time feeling ten times happier. He is a delight to spend time with. I would encourage anyone, no matter what age or stage you’re at in life, to think about becoming a befriender.

"It’s so rewarding, enjoyable and in fact, my employer even told me it helped me stand out in the recruitment process. The best part of my year has been gaining a new friend in Mike and he’s someone I will never forget."

Volunteer Now’s befriending scheme has successfully been supporting isolated older people for many years. Volunteers provide a couple of hours a week of friendship and can make a huge impact on the health and wellbeing of the service users.

Victoria O’Neill, Volunteer Now, said: "Quite simply, volunteers change lives. We can’t thank people like Amy enough for spending her time with people who need it most. It’s our hope that by hearing stories like that of she and Mike, many others will feel inspired to apply to become a volunteer befriender.

"Everyone needs a friend in life and often people just don’t have someone to turn to. That could be down to lack of family contact, loss of a loved one or through ill-health or disability. Providing friendship by simply visiting for a chat, breaks the monotony of another day spent alone or feeling low. Just like Amy, you can be the change that turns a life around."

To find out more about befriending opportunities visit www.volunteernow.co.uk or call 028 9023 2020.

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